How to work on yourself before finding a support system
We can’t do it all alone forever, but during the time before finding the support we need, self work is essential. Rushing to find help can lead us to the wrong type of relationships, which can cause more damage than help, or even mishandle the right one because we weren’t ready. Self-improvement brings clarity so that when the right relationships come, they can help you in the areas you need and not what they think you need.
How well can someone help you if you don’t know why you need help or where you need help in?
3 ways to get yourself ready
Compare your self-perception with feedback from others
Be cautious of who you seek feedback from because everyone doesn’t have the best intentions for you — even when they do, it might not be the right guidance. It’s your job to decipher what’s accurate. A general rule to follow is if you hear the same feedback from at least three different people, the reality is that you’re the common link. Once you accept that reality, you can start to become more honest with yourself about who you are and the things you carry inside. Reflecting and becoming more self-aware is key.
Know your strengths and weaknesses
Understanding yourself and being aware of others perception of you will guide you to choose the right relationships. The first step is to know your assets and downfalls. Where you’re strong isn’t where you need external support. Where you’re weak is where you need help. However, before jumping into relationships for help, it’s essential to address your weaknesses. Independently improving your weaknesses as much as possible will lay a solid foundation for future support.
Aligned values are essential in choosing a relationship for growth. Also, knowing which temperaments or personalities that you are compatible with will make a significant difference in how well the relationship supports you. By finding the right fit, you’ll create a relationship dynamic that genuinely encourages personal growth and complements your journey of self-improvement.
Make a plan and stick to it
If you’re not reaching your goal, set smaller goals that you can. Even if you don’t know if it’s the best plan, you’re still building up consistency and effort. That’s more than the average person can say for themselves. Once you’ve shown up for yourself without quitting, yet you’re barely making progress, then it’s time to ask for professional help.
Conclusion
In your journey to find the right support system, working on yourself is paramount. By being self-aware and setting realistic goals, you position yourself to benefit from the right relationships. If you’re ready to start building self-confidence and resilience, contact us today for personalized virtual training.
